Party Party Party

May 7, 2013

So today I am embracing the unorganized but ambitious side of myself!   Big Boy’s birthday is around the corner, and even though I told myself last year that we would keep it simple this year, I couldn’t help but start planning a party for him and his friends!  And, of course, that means starting to plan party favors, decorations, and food.

Do I have other tasks I need to complete?  Yes.  But, I can’t help but drop a few other things and work on this.  And one good thing about having a party at our house means I am forced to either keep things continuously clean, or, do a MASSIVE cleaning right beforehand, which lasts at least a week or two.    Also, it is going to take place mainly outdoors, and in very happy news, both Big and Little Boy have been TREMENDOUSLY cooperative in playing outside nicely while I do some lawn tasks!  Yay!  They pick the dandelions, help drag sticks to the yard waste can, etc.  I hope this lasts through their teenage years!

But, nevertheless, tomorrow’s list:

Dishes

Some sort of dinner

Two loads of laundry

Call doc to get results of blood test

Call in Rx refills

Outside time!!!

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Funny, isn’t it, that when I google “unorganized mom blog”, I find mainly abandoned blogs?  I suppose it’s just my need to feel that there are others out there like me.  I want to know that there are more moms without their days scheduled by the hour.  I want to know that there are moms out there that still have to rock or drive their toddlers to sleep for naps or the night.  I want to know that there are moms also having a hard time keeping a child entertained when trying to get dishes, laundry and meals done and rely on sprout or nick jr. for an hour or two.  That their children often engage for 5 to 10 minutes in prepared pinterest, etc activities and then ask to watch a show or have a snack.

Several mom blogs that I have bookmarked are written by women that I want to aspire to be- mainly for my kids’ sakes!   They wake up early and get things done.  They exercise regularly.  They have a regular cooking and cleaning schedule, have crock pots and make time for date nights with their husbands.  They go to bed before midnight.  And some of them work outside the house too!

Would I be a better mom if I did all of these things?  Many times, I think so.  I also wouldn’t be me.  But, is it better to sacrifice who you are (and I really do believe that fulfilling all of the above requires a different personality that I happen to possess) to be a better Mom?  Again, many times, I think maybe so.

And yet, here I am, posting at 11:30 at night, probably will not be in bed until midnight.  I drink coffee at night.  I stuff myself into the toddler bed if Big Boy wakes up and I think it means he will be up before 7.  I cook frozen chicken in the microwave, because I’m not sure how to cook more than one thing in the oven if they require different temperatures.   I let the kids snack in the living room, and now we have a few tiny ants, that I’m hoping will go away if we spray outside around the house (ack, chemicals!).  I don’t know, is “who I am” (and I know there must also be positive qualities that involve some of the same personality aspects that contribute to my actions above) helpful or harmful to my motherhood.

A little help?

May 1, 2013

So, I am a huge fan of many of the doctors I have had in the past, but lately, my experience with the medical system has been one of frustration and confusion.  One of the major issues I have had is communication between doctors (specialists) and communication between doctors and my lab!  For the past couple of days, my list has included making sure that my lab orders have been sent and are ready when I go to the lab.  I have worked on this each day, and it has taken three calls to each doctor thus far, with only one order actually arriving at the lab!   Thus, I still cannot cross this item off my list.

Tomorrow’s list:

Get one blood draw completed

Grocery store, Health food store

Dishes

Load of laundry

Jog or workout

Packing list

 

Out the window

April 29, 2013

And then there are those days that the goals just fly out the window!!!

All three of my men seem to be cycling through a rough cold with a bad cough/congestion, which have made for some rough nights at the house!  So, Fridays list?  Well, laundry got done, as did dishes, but everything else just kind of escaped me!  And it seems that, for me, once I have one off day, I just kind of…get out of gear and there goes the next two or three days.

So I’m hoping the start of the new week helps to re-kick start my list making/completing!  Tomorrow:

Call both doctors AND lab to make sure that people actually sent orders this time!!!  (frustrating!!!)

Dishes

Load of laundry

A jog with the jogging stroller either to the park or to school to pick up Big Boy- and short list of daily toning exercises.

Make hotel reservations

I’m not particularly fond of the evening format on the children’s channel that we watch, but it is the only time the Berenstain Bears show is on, so I have learned to tolerate the somewhat annoying song that is sung before the beloved bears come on.  The song is stuck in my head tonight though, and I would much rather have the song that the cute little chicken in the morning sings, especially because Little Boy has started to try to sing it and is so darn cute!!!

List making proved to be successful today!  Laundry was completed (though on a technicality), dishes were done, doc. was called, exercise was completed (though somewhat frustratingly, as youtube was acting up), groceries were purchased (great deal on mangoes!), outside time was had, the zoo game was at least attempted and someone was called.  The facebook message was not written, BUT I did not scroll though facebook posts more than once today, and I think I can keep that up!

Tomorrow!  Tomorrow is a BUSY day.  Music classes for both boys and a field trip for Big Boy which I will chaperone.

Also:

One load of laundry

Dishes

Check that lab received all orders

Small list of daily exercise

Email someone

Make a haircut appointment for boys!

Make hotel reservations

And now it’s time to say…Goodnight!

Site word tactics

March 4, 2013

I wanted to share a few of the things we’ve been doing to work on site words.  For Big Boy’s third birthday, he received some Do-A-Dots, which are AWESOME if you have not had a chance to use them (http://www.amazon.com/Do-A-Dot-Rainbow-Art-Set/dp/B00004W3Y4).   We used them a lot at Christmas when I found various sites providing free pictures that you could color with the Do-A-Dots, and recently I’ve seen pins suggesting other ways to use them.  Based on a pin using the markers to help children identify and match letters, we used them to identify/match site and color words.

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It was a short/simple activity and one that he could do somewhat independently (which is often key!).

We also tried this game: http://www.playdoughtoplato.com/2012/06/13/showdown/  using plain pieces of paper.  As long as I emphasized the “1….2….3……SHOW!!!” aspect, Big Boy really enjoyed this, and it also required him to work on small motor, as he wanted to keep all the cards in his hand as one would in Go Fish.

This week I want to try this game: http://sprinklestokindergarten.blogspot.com/2012/01/wheres-bear.html  and perhaps this: http://www.jugglingwithkids.com/2011/10/sight-word-parking-lot.html

I’m hoping to try a color versions of these games with Little Boy.

In other news…

One of my main goals this week is to reduce our tv viewing.  I’ll admit- it is SUCH an easy go to when I want to get something done.  Big Boy has a really hard time playing independently, and that is my fault.  So, my goal this week is to help BOTH little men to become more confident independent players (workers, really).  This is not only for my sake (but def. a big part of it- dinner needs to get made, dishes have to get done), but because I don’t want them to think that they can’t come up with their own ideas for play.  This may take a little more flexibility on my part as far as materials/toys I’m going to be willing to get out, and Husband may have to get used to a little extra mess when he gets home!!!  Trying to talk to Big Boy when he watches TV has become impossible, and that’s why I KNOW we need to kick this habit.  Tomorrow, I’m going to start by letting them choose three programs they want to watch during the day.  That said, I think I’d better post my other goals tomorrow night.  I’ve got some “independent activities” searching to do!  We shall see how this goes.  Maybe I should find my headphones.  There could be some screaming and whining involved!

If anyone who reads this blog has any advice on this, please, advise away.

So, as to not overwhelm my unorganized, easily over-stimulated self (and because I’m typing in a different location that isn’t very comfortable on the wrists :P) I’m going to address the steps I plan to take to achieve my goals one day, one goal at a time.

One of my goals is to help Big Boy learn sight words which is leading towards a general goal of having him reading by kindergarten. I have a couple of things I want to try this month. When it comes to sight words, I plan to bring his attention to them during our daily book reading and to try this strategy, as spatulas are very popular in our household right now. This month, I would also like to try working on syllable recognition in a round about sort of way. I have seen a few strategies on Pintrest (which, to be perfectly honest has partly inspired this whole need for goals, organization, etc) that I plan on trying such as clapping out the syllables in words and touching the hand, elbow and shoulder.

Let me be clear that I know that Big Boy does not NEED to be reading by kindergarten, and if he really seems to resist this, I will certainly let it go. It’s just that I believe he CAN, and I want to encourage reading, as I think it is a skill and hobby that can serve him in SO many ways!!!

New Blog, New Focus

January 18, 2013

Sometimes it feels as though at least six of the nineteen years I spent in school went down the tubes after giving birth. I would really like to keep up with this blog (well, actually, create a new one), but you are going to have to forgive my writing skills if you are going to read this. Somehow, once I started raising my babies, my beautiful wonderful babies, my concentration went out the window. My ability to complete a thought that both makes sense and has a wonderful flow to it is gone. I want to write. I want to express meaningful ideas, but it frustrates me something horrible when I read something I wrote, and it sounds as though all the student loans my husband is now paying off were for nothing.

I think that part of my inability to organize my thoughts is due to not being subject to the organization that school forced on me. Even in college and grad school, with a flexible schedule, there were due dates. There were tests. There were discussions I was expected to take part in. After grad school, I worked in a school, which also forced me to have some sort of organization to my life. There was a set schedule. Even if my papers were all over the place, my notes were crazy, at some point, in order to achieve my goals at school, I had to stay somewhat organized.

That brings me to another point. Goals. In school, and at work, I had goals. In school I aspired to achieve certain grades, to obtain various degrees or licenses. At work, I had continuing education goals and goals for the children I worked with. Writing down personal goals was encouraged, and, of course, writing down and meeting in regards to goals for the children was required.

And so that’s the thing. As a person, I am NOT naturally organized or goal oriented. I am the opposite. I am messy. I am an unorganized multi-tasker. I have anxiety. And, I think I’ve discovered that I am a little bit lazy when this organization and goal-setting is not forced upon me!!!

Don’t get me wrong, when it comes to taking care of my babies (Big Boy and Little Boy), I am quite capable. They are certainly not in any danger of their needs not being cared for. In fact, sometimes my unorganized nature and messy nature is an asset to my job as a stay-at-home mom. I’m not freaking about about neatness. I’m flexible when it comes to the tantrums and breakdowns of three and one year olds. As a mom there has to be some degree of being able to just stop doing whatever you are doing and say “Ok, this day…or month…or year is not going to go quite the way I thought.”

As helpful as those attributes (or, should I say lack of) may be though, I’m at a point where this sort of fluttering about is contributing to a great deal of anxiety. I need some organization. I need some goals. I need direction!!!!

So, it’s time to start making some goals. Time to start taking just a little bit of control of life, both for myself and my family.

Right now I’m in the idea stage. I need to pick and choose, as too many and unreachable goals will result in ungoodness for me and others. I want to use this blog to develop goals, long term and short term, and to develop a game plan to reach those goals. And, of course, I want to try to keep some accountability when it comes to my effort to achieve those goals. So, here goes. Even though I don’t make them that often, I enjoy lists, so, that’s how I’ll start.

POSSIBLE SHORT TERM GOALS
Help Big Boy memorize some sight words
Help Little Boy learn his colors
Start working out once per week for 40 minutes
Limit coffee to every other day (and, obviously, only an occasional Startbucks- I’ve only been drinking it about once a week or less- other days it’s 7-11)
Cook dinner twice a week (as in, a fresh dinner versus warming up leftovers or sandwiches).
Read a book club book

POSSIBLE LONG TERM GOALS
Help Big Boy start learning to read
Help Little Boy recognize shapes/numbers/colors/uppercase letters
Work out three times per week for 30-40 minutes
Limit coffee to once or twice a week
Cook dinner 3 times a week
Move Big Boy and Little Boy into same room and create separate play room.

In the grand scheme of the world and it’s problems and achievements, these goals are probably pretty lame. In my little corner of the world though, this is the school of my life.

Sugar Monster

November 2, 2012

So, I’m not quite sure when or how it happened, but the big, bad sugar monster has reared its ugly head again. Perhaps it’s the cooler weather. Perhaps it is the holidays coming (darn Starbucks red cup!). Perhaps it is all the delicious looking pinterest desserts! Nevertheless, time to get myself back in check with the sugar. Now, I have no problem eating chocolate, ice cream, etc. But eating a bag of chocolate chips in less than a week is probably not ideal- particularly now that I’ve learned that a lot of chocolate is also full of GMOs, etc. Need to look for those natural sugars!

We received a visit from the Halloween fairy last night. Quite the last minute quick story I adapted from a whole foods website I skim. The Halloween fairy came to collect big boy and little boy’s candy (big boy WAS given a choice whether or not he wanted to leave it for her). She feeds her cat the candy and left a Halloween Book for them in return. What am I going to do with that candy now? Ugh. Not sure. There are places collecting it for troops, but, the way I see it, if I don’t want my kids eating it why am I sending it to the people protecting our country? Any suggestions?!

So, a month is up!

August 23, 2012

Well, I am still aiming for no Starbucks, but I’m trying to decide what my next goal will be. I have a few ideas, but need to make a decision.

One goal I have this month is to read The Highly Sensitive Child, as I think it might help with some of Big Boy’s meltdowns.

On a side note, I got some bloodwork results back and seem to be back to square one. Frustrating! One of the doctors I saw today said “Medicine is a guessing game.”. Great, just great.